One of many prominent themes in A Course in Miracles (ACIM) is about others being your brother. In theory, this sounds really good but it can be difficult to put into practice. It is one thing to love your brother when they are being lovable; but it’s quite another to love them when they’re not. Whenever you make a judgment they’ve done something very wrong or harmed you in some way, you won’t be willing to talk about love with them. The ego will judge them not worthy of love because they’ve caused you harm. This comes from the first separation and not being worthy of God’s love. You can’t tell another everything you think you may not have.
ACIM is clear: No error has occurred. No separation has happened. As you visually see another body, you assume (judgment) this person is different, and difference means separation to the ego mind. The illusion of a separate identity is thus made real. Specialness now exists freeing the ego to make a God who’ll “give” you the special love the other vengeful God denied through the sin of the first separation. Specialness also reaches your brothers whom the ego uses replace the love of the vengeful God.
What does it decide to try see another as your brother? Let’s breakdown the components but remember that even with these understandings, it is going to drop to your willingness to forget about judgment and doing the particular work of undoing the ego.
These special relationships replace the love of God. They could be love or hate relationships, but either way, they are on the basis of the “wrong” or “right” mind of the ego. Should you one little thing an ego judges wrong, it goes from want to hate faster than the blink of an eye. To think God would do this is to think the lie of the ego that God is vengeful and He attacks. You’d only attack others because you imagine exactly the same lie about yourself. They are judgments you must be prepared to hand over for correction (forgiveness). Only the ego judges and attacks. You’re not your ego.
Absolutely all relationships are special until you choose to make them Holy. You can’t see others as your brother if you’re involved with judgment and projection. The darkness blinds you to their light along with your own. Holy Relationships are used by the Holy Spirit for correction of your head (forgiveness). This makes the choice to see another as a brother an experience which becomes real.
The only path any relationship becomes a Holy Relationship is, for a minumum of one of you, to be practicing forgiveness. Seeing someone as a brother means doing this even if you are the only person in the partnership prepared to relinquish judgment. Everything you do as cause will soon be your effect.
Another favorite employed by the ego to keep you from seeing another as your brother is to use your personal specialness as an easy way to increase separation. So long as you see yourself as better, or different, you are considered special. God’s special love will shine you since you stick out by being unique.
Examples: Taller versus shorter. College degree(s) versus uneducated. Good looking versus ugly. Wealthy versus poor. Healthy versus sick.
The list continues and on and understand that each side is just a trick as both are still the ego mind. You can be unique because of your illness just around having your health. Remember, the ego’s judgments are one or the other. It knows no other way.
ACIM clearly highlights that you have to give up all judgments of others and everything in this world if you intend to go home. As long as you judge yourself or others as being special, as well as different, you won’t see everybody else like a brother. Specialness, by definition, is separation since it enables you to unique. Only sameness and oneness exist in Heaven and your brothers are typical the same. Judgment hides this from you.
Forgiveness and Guilt:
The Course also makes clear that everything you see in another is just a projection of your guilt and therefore, things you need to forgive in yourself. Judgment of a brother keeps you from knowing yourself directly as it distracts you from making use of your decision maker capabilities for correction. The tirade of judgments is merely showing you everything you think you are: A judgmental ego. Every time you judge, this is exactly what you assert you are. You deny your personal truth.
It is really fairly simple: Look at your judgments of a brother. Your light and theirs are hidden in judgment. You don’t see everything you keep hidden in judgment a course in miracles book. Be prepared to withdraw from projection and judgment and hand them to the Holy Spirit for correction (forgiveness). That is carrying it out and utilising the decision maker to choose the other side of the split mind.
Hand over all judgments until you receive correction (forgiveness) and you will discover this to be true. You’ll see another as a brother when judgment about them is gone. When this occurs, separation doesn’t exist because they are viewed as the same. Heaven is sameness and oneness.
We are all Brothers:
Your choice maker is just a neutral observer whose mechanism is based on action. The idea is not enough. You are able to talk all you need; but putting it into practice is the only thing that makes a difference. Choosing to forget about judgments of a brother, especially during the changing times you never want to, is the manner in which you can come to see them as brothers.
The only real true type of difference you may make is to change your perceptions of others back to True Perception. You must do this while in a body. Here’s some criteria to bear in mind:
To judge a brother for not putting into practice spiritual principles means you need to get back to the sections on forgiveness and guilt, and specialness. Begin from there with your own judgments about them not doing everything you think they need to on their path. Hand the judgments over for correction (forgiveness) so you may be the full light of God that shows them the way. To judge them for not putting the ideas into practice is the manner in which you experience yourself. Make sure you relinquished all judgment towards others.
To judge a brother and project blame, anger and attack means you need to just begin from that place. Withdraw from conscious attack and get back to your decision maker. If you’d like peace, be prepared to hand those judgments over for correction. We’re all in this together so where you start makes no difference. Anyone judging you is showing their reality just while showing yours whenever you judge. Focus on turning over judgments from the level of mind where you will find yourself. That’s presence of mind.
No matter what your location is, if you intend to see others as your brother, it all begins with you making your decision to begin to see the truth. Do it often, and you see it sometimes. Do it always, and you see it in all ways. Right now, you believe in separation which means you won’t manage to look out of the illusion of the ego’s darkness until you take decision making action. Who you actually are is not hurt with a brother; and you have not hurt them. Only the ego claims to be injured and pours salt on the wound. It’s called guilt.
All of us have exactly the same wants, needs, problems and goals and our brothers walk beside us as heavenly companions in this world. See them as judgments and they’ll behave as such. See them as Holy, and you might find God reflected back at you. All that stands in your way is you handing over every judgment in regards to a brother most of the time.